The Age Gap – Some say love is blind, all forgiving, and all that good stuff, but does love have an age? Throughout time the age difference between partners has always been on the docket and what others might consider to be wrong, others see no problem in. Every relationship is different and there is no way to say that two people that are vastly different in their calendar years cannot connect romantically on a very real level. These relationships with larger age gaps should not be deemed wrong or amoral (as long as they are with the confines of the law, of course however, the two people may find that problems can develop over the course of time.
The major problem that can cripple these kinds of relationships comes when pivotal moments in both partners’ lives begin to come to the front of their lives. What are two people to do when one partner is considering settling down and possibly setting up shop for life, while the other is preparing to possibly find a new career or go away to graduate school? These issues can work themselves out over time; but, one of the partners will most likely have to give something up for sake of the relationship and they might not be in the most flexible position to do so.
Since the two people are often at very different parts of their lives, money can also be an issue that can arise. If the older of the two is more financially secure, they might start to pick up the bill more often than the younger. The younger might have no choice due to their situation/position in life to agree and concede sometimes due to financial impotence. These kinds of financial differences are usually not a problem between two people that are very much in love; however, when sailing is not so smooth they might come to resent each other and use that money as leverage. The money that started in the beginning as a common something shared between two people has now transformed from into a relationship within which there is a designated “giver” and a “taker.”
Love is powerful and is can overcome all obstacles when it is given the chance; however, it is never easy. Age differences will add more complication to an already complicated game. It will take extra patience and extra flexibility for such relationships to work. Love can conquer anything; however, Dating between some people simply must conquer more.