Half of all marriages wind up breaking up at some point and a lot of those relationships turn sour when a third party steps in between the two spouses. Being that other person can make your life really messy and bring in a lot of drama. What are you putting at risk to be with this person and is it healthy for you mentally and emotionally?
All relationships are difficult and being the girlfriend or boyfriend of a married person is no easier. This person is trying to be committed to you while they are (if nothing else) legally committed to another person. Is their marriage really over, or is that something that they’re just telling you? Unless this person is having their final meeting with the divorce attorney tomorrow, you are always going to be the number two in their world.
Unless this marriage is down for the count and has no signs of getting up you are going to be in for more drama than you should be able to handle. If sneaking around and trying to stay out of plain sight feels like a normal relationship, you may be in need of some serious re-evaluation of your top priorities. You may feel like you know this person better than their spouse does and that they take them for granted; however, if they are stepping out on their marriage they probably have a lot of issues with commitment.
If someone wants to have a committed relationship with you while they are still married, do you think they will have issues about walking out on you when the honeymoon ends? What do you tell your friends and family about your significant other who’s wearing someone else’s ring? You might find yourself in a world of drama you didn’t expect. If the spouse doesn’t know their marriage is on the rocks and you and your date get caught, a world of embarrassment is coming your way when you suddenly find yourself face-to-face with the betrayed spouse that just confirmed their worst suspicions about their marriage.
Now the wife/husband knows. That would be the hard part if they didn’t already. Your forbidden relationship is now going to take its most dramatic turn. One relationship is going to end. Yours is one that can end without legal arbitration, so hold on to your seat because you’ve done everything you can. The worst part about being the third person in a marriage is that the ball will never be in your court. You will always be subject to the whims and fancies of your married partner. Having your relationship come out of the wraps may drive your forbidden relationship out of existence.
If the marriage dissolves then all the contemplation and worrying was for nothing. Now you’re just dating a person that has a little extra baggage. Dating a person who is otherwise committed doesn’t allot you a lot of breathing room, but if you are truly in love with this person, then the argument is over. You’ll fight to be with them all you can.