May 19th, 2010

First impressions can make you or break you. The most solid basis of what most people will think of you can and will be determined during those first chance moments. How you act during that first meeting with a new guy has the potential to have him decide where you fit into his future. Sex appeal and how you use it is key when influencing guys’ opinions and it will be on night one when he will most often decide if you’re worth a night, a few seasons, or the rest of a lifetime.
What you flaunt and how you flaunt it can give guys a decent insight into what your intentions are. Keep in mind what kind of signals you are sending off when you start to mingle and it will usually keep the kind of guys you are looking for heading your way. This is also a good way to keep the real toads at bay. Don’t act like you’re willing to throw all your chips down on that one first night or you may appear to be a lot more disposable than you’re intending-unless that’s what you’re going for.
You want to let guys know that you respect yourself and that they should respect you; but, that doesn’t mean you have to shut your sex drive down completely. If you’re out on the town with the girls and you’re the friend standing by the wall with her arms crossed or only engaging in polite small talk, you might also be sending out the wrong message. People will get the idea that you’re keeping yourself all to yourself and that they’re going to have to really settle down to get anywhere with you- not that settling down before everything gets too hot and heavy is a bad thing. The only problem is that you run the risk of scaring some guys off. Most guys want to settle into the serious relationship and rarely head out with the idea “I’d going to find myself a long term girlfriend tonight.”
The flirty, yet casual, girl is the one that will have the opportunity to hand her number out to any guy she pleases. She carries herself with an air of respect and definitely lets the rest of the crowd know that she’s sleeping in her bed tonight, but she might want to see you again. No one is going to be leaving the initial conversation with her with their tail between their legs, running for the hills. Guys will want get to know her-not just try her skin on. Extroverted and sexy, yet maintaining a level of mystery will ensure that the guys will want way more than a fling and not be scared off by commitment. There’s plenty of time for commitment later.
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October 26th, 2009

Everyone has seen a man who is on a date flash his eyes at the waitress’s behind when she walks past the table. Why is it that he is sitting in front of a girl who is totally fit, yet he is now eyeing another woman? Is it part of a man’s nature to always look for the next one even when his girl is sitting right in front of him? Men and women can often think about relationships and sexual encounters with very different mind sets. Men can be worked with, but few can be trained. One with loose eyes may always have loose eyes.
The male psyche can be one of high maintenance. While guys don’t act needy or need emotional support, they do like having their ego serviced by a lady every now and again. The reason their eyes are wandering are because he’s already sealed the deal with his lady. He knows that she’s into him and he doesn’t need to doubt that at all. Men have more of a tendency to think of sex as a conquest and can see any attractive woman that might walk on by as something they would like to conquer. Even if they can’t touch, looking is just as good sometimes. While sex can be something we become emotionally invested in, men can often be satisfied with the conquest and experience.
Just because a man is caught looking at other women doesn’t mean he’s cheating or is likely to cheat. It means he’s normal. All the time he has spent single before the current relationship, he has leisurely spend his time eyeing females and thinking about which ones he would like to approach. The looking is a conditioned behavior that is hard to discourage. To be fair to the male gender, all people notice when they see something they like. Just because you might be in a relationship, it doesn’t mean you can’t appreciate the look someone else has. Sex appeal is chemical and impulsive, so it is hard to judge looking as a rational/cognitive decision.
It is easy to thing a man is a pig when he is caught staring down other women, but it doesn’t have to be as horrible as it seems. As long as the guy is looking and not touching, he really isn’t committing any crimes here. As the girlfriend, it might even be helpful for you to catch your man looking as few times. You can start to notice what the things are that are turning his head. Slap him on the wrist when you catch him, but it doesn’t have to start a fight.
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September 7th, 2009
Half of all marriages wind up breaking up at some point and a lot of those relationships turn sour when a third party steps in between the two spouses. Being that other person can make your life really messy and bring in a lot of drama. What are you putting at risk to be with this person and is it healthy for you mentally and emotionally?
All relationships are difficult and being the girlfriend or boyfriend of a married person is no easier. This person is trying to be committed to you while they are (if nothing else) legally committed to another person. Is their marriage really over, or is that something that they’re just telling you? Unless this person is having their final meeting with the divorce attorney tomorrow, you are always going to be the number two in their world.
Unless this marriage is down for the count and has no signs of getting up you are going to be in for more drama than you should be able to handle. If sneaking around and trying to stay out of plain sight feels like a normal relationship, you may be in need of some serious re-evaluation of your top priorities. You may feel like you know this person better than their spouse does and that they take them for granted; however, if they are stepping out on their marriage they probably have a lot of issues with commitment.
If someone wants to have a committed relationship with you while they are still married, do you think they will have issues about walking out on you when the honeymoon ends? What do you tell your friends and family about your significant other who’s wearing someone else’s ring? You might find yourself in a world of drama you didn’t expect. If the spouse doesn’t know their marriage is on the rocks and you and your date get caught, a world of embarrassment is coming your way when you suddenly find yourself face-to-face with the betrayed spouse that just confirmed their worst suspicions about their marriage.
Now the wife/husband knows. That would be the hard part if they didn’t already. Your forbidden relationship is now going to take its most dramatic turn. One relationship is going to end. Yours is one that can end without legal arbitration, so hold on to your seat because you’ve done everything you can. The worst part about being the third person in a marriage is that the ball will never be in your court. You will always be subject to the whims and fancies of your married partner. Having your relationship come out of the wraps may drive your forbidden relationship out of existence.
If the marriage dissolves then all the contemplation and worrying was for nothing. Now you’re just dating a person that has a little extra baggage. Dating a person who is otherwise committed doesn’t allot you a lot of breathing room, but if you are truly in love with this person, then the argument is over. You’ll fight to be with them all you can.
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